Divorce coaching is defined as “flexible, goal-oriented process designed to support, motivate, and guide people going through divorce” and is part of the body of Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) practices available to parties to a divorce. If you are planning to divorce, or in the middle of an active divorce, you can benefit from a skilled divorce coach to work through what to expect in the divorce process, to identify your goals for your life during and after the transition, and build strategies for how to gracefully navigate the changes coming practically, legally, and emotionally.
In sum, my divorce coaching clients lean on me as a resource for holistic divorce support, emotional processing, and legal insight. I serve as someone they can readily access when they feel scared, disoriented, or like they’ve encountered a challenge they don’t know how to respond to.
Maybe you’re confident that you want to avoid litigation, are afraid that hiring an attorney will escalate things with your ex-partner, but still want someone in your corner helping you get oriented so that you know what to expect.
If you retain me for divorce coaching services, we will create a custom approach to any combination of the following:
Explore your expectations around dissolution and identify where to focus your attention and efforts in preparation
Help you decide whether you can effectively self-represent or whether retaining counsel is the best option for you given your circumstances, finances, and background
Discuss the costs and benefits of available approaches to emotional and legal separation, such as mediation, conscious uncoupling, collaborative law, litigation, and self-representation
Utilize techniques, such as circling, to get emotionally grounded at key moments in the divorce or separation process
Identify your values and set personal, practical, and legal goals for your divorce or legal separation
Talk through the unknowns of the legal process and help you orient to our court system
Get organized to make optimal use of other divorce professionals, like accountants and mediators
Identify opportunities for positive-sum solutions (which are often available and serve the client to identify), as well as ensuring your approach to zero-sum situations has a sound legal foundation
Have support in planning how to set up a separate household or manage parenthood in light of a new custody/coparenting schedule
Anything else that I am competent to support you with is on the table
I am both compassionate and action-oriented. My approach to divorce coaching is to support my clients in maximizing their agency as they move through the dissolution process. I hold an expansive emotional container, really being there with you in the guts of your experience, while also encouraging you to stay on track with the practical aspects of your divorce so that you're responding, rather than reacting, to each step of the journey. We will constantly work to distill the cloud of overwhelming divorce to-dos into actionable, comprehensible steps to keep you moving forward.
We will work to align your values and goals for the short, medium, and long term so that your divorce strategy sets you up for success and happiness in your life after the final divorce decree.
You have options for how to take this transition by the horns. You have a way forward. Let’s map it out together and get you there in one piece.